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Mea Culpa To All Concerned

I made a mistake today, completely unintentionally. When I realized it I apologized, but got yelled at even so. 

They had been putting effort into satisfying a quest, but so had I, returning over and over to the eggplant which wasn't being watered. This time I saw a group of about 5 people around it. There was no local chat, so I thought they had tried to harvest the last egg and failed, and were watching to see who would get it. I got the last egg. 

Someone said something snarky and I realized what happened. I apologized, explained that I'd been trying too, but didn't know they were teaming up to do it together. 

Sorry everyone. Honestly, I feel like shit now, and your friend's insistence that I intentionally griefed you guys hurt me more than I hurt any of you. 

Guess I'll go eat worms. 

edit: apparently I didn't explain well enough that I'm apologizing to the others in the group who left before I realized my mistake and apologized ingame. 

Posted 14 months ago by Widdershins Subscriber! | Permalink

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  • I was on the other side of this the other day.

    I was waiting for the last egg, and someone came by and Fertilidusted the thing.

    I snapped at the unsuspecting Glitch, then immediately apologized.

    It happens.
    Posted 14 months ago by Biff Beefbat Subscriber! | Permalink
  • We all make mistakes, Widdershins. :) 

    And there are always those that know you would not do something like that to cause grief.
    Posted 14 months ago by Little Miss Giggles Subscriber! | Permalink
  • This sort of stuff happens. I honestly wish folks would take a moment to think about how they react and assume FIRST that if was a mistake or a misreading of the circumstance. I know I can be guilty - of both sides.

    The other day, I was planting wood trees. Now, I don't care if some one antidotes a poisoned tree. If they believe trees shouldn't be killed and our following their beliefs, fine. I wait until they leave. But the other day someone was hover for a while. The tree died, I cut it down and just as I was finishing tending the plot, the Glitchen swept in and dug it up. Just seemed spiteful. And I snapped at them a bit and they apologized and told me they were new. And I accepted it... and then taught them about Fertidust and wood trees. And we parted friends.

    But I still felt a bit bad about snapping. Because it was also my fault for not telling them what was up when I saw them standing there.

    FOLKS! If you are working on a project, even if there are a bunch of you standing around, don't assume people know what you are doing. If there are five folks hanging around waiting for the last egg, there is a good chance someone, even an experienced player, might sweep in and take it. We ALL harvest (or whatever) on the run.

    • Say something when someone approaches if you care so much about a project it will upset you if it is disrupted,
    • At least leave a note. Notes by a tree (or whatever) are a good eye catching device to say "Hey! Somethings is up!"
    • If you don't say anything to someone who comes up, don't assume they are "griefing." Man, that word gets thrown around WAY too much now.

    Play nice. Don't assume the worst.
    Posted 14 months ago by Lord Bacon-o Subscriber! | Permalink
  • You know we all do things at one time or another that we realize later we shouldn't have done or wished we did a little differently. I'm sure the folks will get over what happened, and hopefully realize that you just made an honest mistake. If not, they are taking things to seriously.
    Posted 14 months ago by Gizmospooky Subscriber! | Permalink
  • Hmmm...no "apology" for the FU in IM nor the splank and run?

    Not to mention that you stood and watched each harvest and did see local chat about "again, again" as it was whittled down.
    Posted 14 months ago by Hobbes4All Subscriber! | Permalink
  • Thank you for helping me feel better about this. Just a few days before, in another location, someone had been attending an eggplant but had run out of harvest actions while an egg remained on the plant. She explained what she was doing, and I left a couple notes there asking people not to water the plant. She had missed her chance for that game day, but she was hoping I would get it that time. I didn't either. We both hoped that someone else would have the good fortune.

    Obviously this experience colored my interpretation of tonight's situation.

    I know it's silly to get caught up in game drama, but hurt feelings are just as real in a game as anywhere else. We're a community, and none of us wants others to think badly of us.
    Posted 14 months ago by Widdershins Subscriber! | Permalink
  • Oh, crap Hobbes. Did not see local chat, did not see the harvest. I mentioned no names in this post, hoping to keep it civil. Enough already. 
    Posted 14 months ago by Widdershins Subscriber! | Permalink
  • Why bring it public if you don't want publicity?
    Posted 14 months ago by JW Subscriber! | Permalink
  • To apologize to the others in the group who left before I realized what had happened!!! 

    Seriously? I'm to be tarred, feathered, now flayed?

    Have at me, I won't read this thread again. :(
    Posted 14 months ago by Widdershins Subscriber! | Permalink
  • @Widdershins: This is probably going to be hard for you, but I hope you don't feel too defensive or hard done by.  There was a misunderstanding, and you have apologised for it, recognising that you were in the wrong.  Now, after humbling yourself by making this thread, people are going to be angry with you anyway (as might be expected!).  The easiest reaction is to be indignant and throw off that humbleness again.  But victimising yourself to a victim probably isn't going to make your case better.  Maybe just take a breather and be aware that others don't realise how much effort it took to make this thread in the first place (but you did it, knowing it was the right thing to do).  When they have finished ranting they will get over it too, and if you haven't said anything you'll regret later, your apology should still be ok afterwards.

    Sorry to talk so frankly.  Hope I did not offend.
    Posted 14 months ago by Lara Subscriber! | Permalink