Topic

Friends lists

Not sure if this has been said before. Please point me in the right direction if it has?

If someone adds me as their buddy and I do NOT accept.. make it mutual. Does it still show me as their buddy?
other way round..If I add someone as a buddy and they do not make it mutual do they still show up as my buddy?
Finally, if I remove a buddy from my list, why do I still show on their buddy list?
Don't all go running off to see if I removed you lol :/

Posted 21 months ago by Misha Subscriber! | Permalink

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  • Yes, Yes, because it doesn't have to be mutual like Facebook, it's more like twitter where you can follow someone, or they you, or both*.

    (Although in our case it still is. Yay!)

    Who remembers when twitter called followers friends and it was all very confusing?
    Posted 21 months ago by Rikk Subscriber! | Permalink
  • ... wha...
    Posted 21 months ago by DerpieTheBird Subscriber! | Permalink
  • Sorry I'm a little confused. What do I /they, get out out making it mutual then?
    Posted 21 months ago by Misha Subscriber! | Permalink
  • Is there a search function for buddy listing? I am on the FS refugee raft and I am having one heck of a time finding people outside test time.
    Posted 21 months ago by Mistress*of*Fishies Subscriber! | Permalink
  • @ Mistress if you look up there at the top of the page "FRIENDS" ..That may help you find your them. :)
    Posted 21 months ago by Misha Subscriber! | Permalink
  • Mistress... One of the ways you can add a person when the wold is closed is by clicking on their name in a Forum (takes you to their profile) and click add person. You might have some luck gathering people if you head to the FS Refugee Group and start going through posts there.
    Posted 21 months ago by Travinara Subscriber! | Permalink
  • Fishies, go to my page (you're already on my friends list) and start clicking on everybody's name that you recognize :D You can use the back button on your browser to get back to me and click to more people, or you can just jump from person's friend list to person's friend list, just like old fashioned gate jumping...
    Posted 21 months ago by Essie Kitten Subscriber! | Permalink
  • You can also pull them en masse from Facebook. . Just click the Friends tab and then Hit Connect with Facebook. It will then give you a list of folks who are here playing that you are friends with and all you have to do is hit add :)
    Posted 21 months ago by Divine~ Subscriber! | Permalink
  • @Misha - Dunno, just happy happy friendship I suppose :)
    Posted 21 months ago by Rikk Subscriber! | Permalink
  • Thanks for that tip sc803. But for adding friends that aren't Refugees, is it possible without going thru FaceBook? I tried, and it just told me to go FB. Which for various reasons I don't do.
    Posted 21 months ago by Phoebe Springback Subscriber! | Permalink
  • me i mean all here is my friend no preferance because is sure the friend you know now is friend but new friend is all time welcome add me anytime if you want know me
    Posted 21 months ago by AlexAlpha19 Subscriber! | Permalink
  • Phoebe, the Facebook link is just a list of your friends on Facebook that play here. You can click on any player here and add them. You can get to possible friend adds also, through peoples friends list. Like sc803 mentioned people hopping.
    Posted 21 months ago by tweetypie Subscriber! | Permalink
  • !Yay! simpleness. I did figure that out eventually, hehe.
    I agree AlexAlpha, we're all friends, but having them listed is maybe a quicker way to get to anyone, they're right there on your page. Yep, I like easy.
    Posted 21 months ago by Phoebe Springback Subscriber! | Permalink
  • I dont really like how someone can add you as a buddy and even if you don't make it mutual you show as their buddy!
    I want someone to be my "friend" because they want to be, not because I just MADE them mine :(
    Posted 21 months ago by Misha Subscriber! | Permalink
  • We had a few problems in FS with the friending aspect. Although, there we got friends requests, we could accept or decline. A lot of us preferred to chat with someone first before friending. I guess it's just a personal choice. But I definitely understand what you mean.
    Posted 21 months ago by tweetypie Subscriber! | Permalink
  • So, if someone I don't know adds me as a buddy, without even asking, I still show as their buddy even if I didn't accept them?
    If so I cant say I care for that at all. I most definitely want to be at least on chatting terms with someone before I am their buddy!
    Posted 21 months ago by Teena Subscriber! | Permalink
  • Yup..that's the measure of it! You can un-friend though!
    Posted 21 months ago by tweetypie Subscriber! | Permalink
  • Just an idea, a previous MMO I played had differentiation of friends , 3 types. Friends, acquaintances and rivals, so you could categorise more effectively - any thoughts on that?
    Posted 21 months ago by riscy Subscriber! | Permalink
  • Here's my take on it.
    If I've met you in the game. If you've asked me a question, if we've worked on a quest together, or otherwise crossed paths, chances are I will add you to my buddy list in the same way that I wave to my neighbours in real life, acknowledge the cashiers at the grocery store and exchange pleasantries with the half a dozen or so new people I meet every day.
    That will probably change when the game launches, simply because of scale.

    Right now we are a relatively small community engaged in a common task-- helping Tiny Speck launch a potentially fabulous game.

    We've discussed in the forums the desire further down the line to be able to break our contacts lists into smaller sub- groups or more easily searchable lists.

    I see no point in friend requests, in fact, in this context I find them counter to the spirit of how I'm playing the game. If you add me to your friends list or don't doesn't much concern me either. If I've added you, it's because you made an impression on me. It doesn't have to be mutual. Although I'd hate to be entirely forgettable.

    This isn't Fac*book, or Tw*tter, and if once the game launches, it starts filling up with spammy SEO- marketing-monetize your friend list botminds and crap, you won't see me for dust.
    Posted 21 months ago by caley dunn Subscriber! | Permalink
  • Is there any way to block from someone from friending you? For example, if an obnoxious player starts "stalking" you and keeps adding you to their friend list, can you block them so they can't see you to add?
    Posted 21 months ago by Essie Kitten Subscriber! | Permalink
  • If I turn down the friends request ('Not Now') - they'll still see me on their friends list, yes? They can start an IM etc.? 

    I ask because there are plenty of people I meet in the game who I want to keep in contact with if they need help, but with a friends list of over 100, and about 20 friend requests daily (test-daily), I can't afford to fill up my friends list more. I'm sure many people are in the same situation...
    Posted 20 months ago by Hburger Subscriber! | Permalink
  • Yes Hburger if you turn THEM down they will still see you on in game and can IM you easily and track your location. Also anything YOU wright on your home page can be vied by them. That is the part I really do not agree with at all :(
    Posted 20 months ago by Misha Subscriber! | Permalink
  • Correct Misha.

    If you SEND a request, you can see what someone is doing... even if they refuse.

    Personally I see the homepage writing as a sort of 'public room' with way too many people in it. It's like sitting in a busy commons, you only here snippits of conversation and the whole world may or may not hear what you are saying.

    Block removes them from your list and (I assume) from theirs. I just tested it out by blocking someone. They no longer appear in my list and I am no longer in theirs.
    Posted 20 months ago by Travinara Subscriber! | Permalink
  • I sure do wish that we had to accept people's requests before we show up on their friends' list. That system made a lot of sense to me in Faunasphere. I have added some folks who I fear haven't made it mutual and then I worry that I might be being a pest to them, which I surely do not want to be. Of course, now that Travinara pointed out that block works, I guess they could block me if they don't want to be befriended. But that seems a bit of a long way around. I think they're so busy focusing on making the game awesome that maybe they haven't gotten down to the nitpicky aspects like this. Will be interesting to see where they head with it...
    Posted 20 months ago by RM Subscriber! | Permalink
  • It was actually you I blocked RM... you disappeared from my list and I from yours. I then went back to your page (via a mutual friends page) and unblocked you. It then gave me the ability to add you to my friends. If you got a new add request, then Block seems to be a way to shake a person. Wonder if Block also has an effect on Follow, worth testing next time.
    Posted 20 months ago by Travinara Subscriber! | Permalink
  • LOL, glad I could help with your experiment, Travinara. You know, I don't think I did actually get a new request though. Going to click on you and see if asks me to add you to my buddy list...hmmm. I'll edit my post here with the results...off to check...

    ETA: Well, that was interesting. I DID have to choose to add you to my buddy list from your page, and I hadn't received a new request. Now you'll have to let me know if it has a request for you (I doubt it since I was already on your list from your end). 
    Posted 20 months ago by RM Subscriber! | Permalink
  • This is the trouble with blocking someone. I don't want to block someone just because the stranger added me as a buddy. I may not want to add them back yet!  I actually like to get to speak/interact with someone first.  I personally don't like, blind friend adding :) I tend to actually ask said person or at least be in a conversation with them and feel befriending is the natural next step. Blocking per say would stop me from ever getting to know someone. Especially if it means I can't see them in game play as well :)
    Posted 20 months ago by Misha Subscriber! | Permalink
  • I feel like caley does. I actually will not add you if I don't remember who you are. I have 4 requests right now "waiting" because I haven't come across these people that I can remember. I don't care one way or another if I am on others' lists. I only want people that I have talked to, helped in game, etc. to be on MY list. There are people from FS that I chatted with in that game quite a bit that I have added here even if they can't be playing very much so far. I know when the game gets underway they will show up more frequently. As for blocking, I will use that infrequently as I did in FS. Unless someone is stalking me or otherwise UNfreindly/rude they will not get blocked. I think I only used it 2 or 3 times.
    Posted 20 months ago by Holly Waterfall Subscriber! | Permalink
  • Same here, Caley Dunn and Holy Waterfall. I have 8 waiting right now, for the same reasons. I don't want my in-game "online list" clogged with people I've never met.
    Posted 20 months ago by Cupcake Subscriber! | Permalink
  • Misha, you could start off blocking everyone and unblock them as you want to talk to them. Just trying to find a way within the mechanics to shake a lurker that someone doesn't want.
    Posted 20 months ago by Travinara Subscriber! | Permalink
  • Misha - When I first started playing FS I accepted all friend requests made during gameplay, then I changed my mind and wanted to chat w/a person to get to know them a bit. I was tired of the drive by friending. Here in Glitch, I guess I felt that anyone that is a former FS player was a good potential friend even if we weren't friends in FS. So, if I come across a familiar FS name in the game or here in the forum I add them to my buddy list; if I get a freind request from them I accept them. I have added some very helpful players like Travinara and Hburger during gameplay and hope to get to know all those on my buddy list better as we get longer and longer tests. I don't know if there is a limit to the buddy list (like there was in FS) but look at it more like a short cut to chat ingame thru the IM function, or to be able to get to their page to see where they live or what level they are or what they look like. Sorry this was so long winded.
    Posted 20 months ago by Gizmospooky Subscriber! | Permalink
  • Good points Gizmospooky. If you are not on my list, I can't see what your comments are on the home page. Helps to keep up with what is going on. Often times right now I can't make sense of a comment because the other side of the conversation isn't on my list. Sadly I would have missed quite a few good points/posts just because I didn't have RM or Devine on my list. They don't know me from a hole in the wall. And I could easily still be sitting all alone unable to leave the Amazing Race if kevbob hadn't been on my list. And that was real torture to try to get someone's attention that I was in trouble, as they were busy chatting away. (Special thanks to those that finally did notice I was in trouble!!!) I haven't seen or heard that there is a limit on your friend list yet. That was a definite problem in FS. I totally understand the concern with the friending aspect, and to be proactive is a good thing. On the other hand.... if it ain't broke, don't fix it.
    Posted 20 months ago by Gypsy_woman Subscriber! | Permalink
  • @Gypsy, no biggie whether I know ya or not. Happy to add friends to my list right now (in fact, I'm pretty much being indiscriminate and friending the world until such time as someone drives me batty; have only blocked one person so far). I actually would like the feature of accepting friend requests before you're on someone's list so that I am not annoying someone by being on their list if they don't want me ;)
    Posted 20 months ago by RM Subscriber! | Permalink
  • See what happens - I go away on holiday for a few days and what happens....I miss a test and someone lets Misha loose on the forums asking questions!!!!!

    Good to be back - good test was it??
    Posted 20 months ago by Bob Apple Subscriber! | Permalink
  • @RM or anyone with the answers :)  does the buddy list have a limit?   if I have not accepted a buddy request, can that person still IM me in the game? does the block feature only keep me from seeing the other person or do i disappear from their view also......would love to test it with someone if there are no answers at this time lol
    Posted 20 months ago by Gypsy_woman Subscriber! | Permalink
  • Bob Apple-I had fun but Flash crashed 4 times. So if fun is the criteria then yea it was a good test. If crashing is-then no. We will be open for beta soon so I guess THAT will be the real test.

    Gypsy-I am open to a little experiment if you like. You are not on my list, so send me a request and we'll go from there.
    Posted 20 months ago by Holly Waterfall Subscriber! | Permalink
  • @Holly... sent a request... looks like Devine has 325 on her buddy list...
    Posted 20 months ago by Gypsy_woman Subscriber! | Permalink
  • Gypsy-I only have 92. I can add and then block you when game starts again. That way you can see how things work out. Is that okay?
    Posted 20 months ago by Holly Waterfall Subscriber! | Permalink
  • Ditto Caley, Holly etc.  If you've made an impact on my, or if I remember you from FS, I added you to my list.  Not to be a pest, but because to me you are trusted.  If you ask to come into my house, etc, I know you're okay.  If you don't friend me back, no biggie.  If I'm on your list and you know where I am in the game, again, no biggie.  If I haven't spoken to you and I'm on your list, and you ask to go to my house... well, it's not going to happen.  Just that cautious nature of mine.  But maybe I made an impact on someone and they want to put me on their list - I'm great with that.  I think unless someone is being a pest, it's not going to be an issue.  And if they are a pest, we have that wonderful block choice.  I think I used it a total of 3 times in FS, but for those times, I'm glad it was there.  Wow, I'm long winded today.  Sorry.  Can't wait to play again with all of you - whether you're on my list or not!  :-)
    Posted 20 months ago by kat65 Subscriber! | Permalink
  • sounds like a plan... will let you know how it plays out then :)  
    Posted 20 months ago by Gypsy_woman Subscriber! | Permalink
  • Question from me - why is it so hard to add friends?  When I go to add, I only get the FaceBook option - would be good if I could browse users already on Glitch to add them.  At the minute, I have to find a post on the forum by someone I want to add as a friend, then go to their profile.

    Also, on another game I played, you could categorise people as friends/acquaintances/allies/rivals which was very useful in that game.
    Posted 20 months ago by riscy Subscriber! | Permalink
  • same here,i would rather add who i know,talked to etc,but i don't really care who adds me from FS,because of the 'in chat' feature within the game,i'd rather use that and talk to people or add some comments or help,rather than running across you in the game and feeling that i have to speak,not being anti-social,it's just that i could be doing quests etc...
    Posted 20 months ago by Joos Subscriber! | Permalink
  • but to add to that i think as the game opens up more,i will be more social out on the streets..lol
    Posted 20 months ago by Joos Subscriber! | Permalink
  • I have a small buddy group for now, I only add/accept people that I have had some communication with. I currently have 2 'flyby' people who I have not accepted as they didn't have the decency to even stop and say hi before they added me. I really don't know why they bother?? 
    I really hope before the game opens the devs do make categories for friends/ aquaintances etc.
    Posted 20 months ago by Teena Subscriber! | Permalink
  • Perhaps there could be something like a "mutual" or "public" friends list which is displayed for all to see, and that could be offset by a nice "contacts" or "private" friends list. However, the terms "public" and "private" friends come off as odd to me, and I just now made that idea up! Someone should refine it for me. :P
    Posted 20 months ago by Vexia Subscriber! | Permalink
  • I also fall into the camp of "I only accept friends with whom I've spoken or interacted with" with the caveat of "If they're from FS, they're probably ok." But, even if they were in FS, if I don't know them that well, I'm still not going to let them go into my house if I'm not there. I don't accept "drive by friendings" as we called them, but I liberally block anyone who pisses me off, or acts in a juvenile or immature manner (no matter how old they may be IRL). I do the same thing with my FB friends list. If I don't know who you are, I will look to see if we have any mutual friends, and ask them first if they think I should accept them. If we have no mutual friends, and their request didn't come with an introduction, into the dump pile it goes. I'm not a friend collector. I don't think having more or fewer friends makes you a better or worse person. Since I do like to help people out, I don't mind having lots of people on my friends list here, because I've gotten many IMs from those on my list who had questions and couldn't get help in the Help Channel. Which, incidentally, should be renamed the Random Bullshit Channel, if we're going for accuracy. Isn't the "Global/Social Chit Chat" group supposed to be for rambling inane nonsense, and the Help Channel for answering questions about the game? Sorry, got off topic there...
    Posted 20 months ago by Essie Kitten Subscriber! | Permalink
  • LOL @sc803, especially your new name for the Help Channel. I second that motion! I'm same with FS; I've added to friends list but would only let in my house if I know them or have chatted with them. Same with other requests honestly, for now, on here. I'm accepting all but probably will reserve judgment on house entering until I've chatted with people. Guess I'm not generally fretted over who I add so far, but I know that will change this week with the addition of way more players. I'll want to meet in game or "meet" in forums (I made a lot of friends in FS because we liked each other's forum posts...).

    If you suggestion for Random BS Channel doesn't go over, I also like Rambling Inane Nonsense. lmao
    Posted 20 months ago by RM Subscriber! | Permalink
  • +1 RM and sc803
    Posted 20 months ago by GreyGoose Subscriber! | Permalink